If you learned early on to read everyone else's feelings before your own, or to make yourself smaller so everyone else could feel okay, you're in the right place.
I'm Drew Mirman, a licensed therapist in Los Angeles working with adolescents and adults who've spent a lifetime being "fine" and are ready to find out what's underneath that.
You Might Be Used to Putting Everyone Else First
My focus is helping adolescents and adults who have learned to put other people’s emotions, expectations, or needs ahead of their own — and now struggle to understand themselves, express what they need, or feel genuinely okay. That pattern can show up anywhere — in your relationships, your family, your school or career, and the way you talk to yourself.
You might notice this pattern showing up as…
Anxiety
Your mind is in constant overdrive, running the worst-case scenario on a loop.
Depression
Just getting through each day feels like carrying something heavy that no one else can see. You don't have to carry it alone.
Grief
Some days it feels lighter, and some days it knocks the wind out of you all over again. Both are okay.
Perfectionism & High Expectations
You put a lot of pressure on yourself to get things right, meet expectations, or be the best you can be — and when you fall short, it doesn't feel like a mistake, it feels like proof that something's wrong with you.
Relationship Difficulties
You can see the pattern repeating — in your friendships, your family, your relationship — and you're tired of feeling stuck in it.
Self-Esteem
You deserve the same kindness you so easily give to everyone else, but the voice in your head tells you otherwise.
Substance Use & Coping
Sometimes the ways we cope can create problems of their own. Therapy can be a space to understand what's underneath the coping and find new ways forward.
Trauma
What happened to you mattered, and however you've carried it since is understandable. You deserve help in carrying that weight.
Ready to stop carrying this alone?
Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to talk about what you're going through and see whether we'd be a good fit to work together.
Pain doesn’t need a solution, it needs a witness.
That's what I try to be for my clients: someone who finally sees you, not someone who fixes you.
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